01 / Meet Pǎo Shan
I’m Pǎo Shan, and I'm glad you're here.
I’m an artist, a lay-ordained Sōtō Zen Buddhist monk, a Tantrika, and a companion in spiritual and energetic exploration.
At this time, I offer coaching to gay, bisexual, and questioning men and to male couples. My path brings together Zen practice, Tantric study, and a life in the arts.
I’m interested in how we experience presence, desire, and connection—and how we make room for the parts of ourselves that are still unfolding.
Perhaps you’re curious.
A desire you haven’t found words for...
A wish to feel at home in your body...
The question of what it means to receive...
You may be exploring masculine intimacy, your erotic energy, or the meeting of sexuality and spirituality. You don’t need to arrive with all the answers.
“On our first meeting, we started to connect over tea and spirituality. I felt grounded and ready to explore.”
— Individual client, name withheld by request
Follow your curiosity.
Different ways to enter. Room to discover your own path.
01 / INDIVIDUAL EXPLORATION
02 / COUPLES & PARTNERS
What are you curious about?
How do you meet each other?
A space to explore masculine intimacy and your inner life, at your own pace. Discover Sacred Intimacy sessions, Embodied Rest & Vitality, and Living Tantra Mentorship.
Sacred Intimacy for Couples makes room for each person’s desires, questions, and boundaries. Explore touch, communication, and closeness together at a pace you both agree to.
03 / PRACTICE IN COMPANY
04 / IN THE GARDEN
There is room for us, too.
Zen Garden Meditation
Some explorations happen in community. Discover the Men’s Healing Tribe and shared practices in yoga, meditation, and conscious connection.
Follow the garden paths in silence, sit by the water, or spend time doing both. Visits to Fergowood Zen Garden are reserved for one person.
Your First Step
Let’s see how we meet.
Working together begins with mutual choice. A request is an invitation to talk.
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Share a little.
Email a little about your interests, questions, and anything you would like me to understand. Share only what feels comfortable.
Make a connection.
I review your request. We can then have a conversation to explore whether working together feels right for both of us.
Choose your next step.
If we agree to proceed, we join each other in a free, virtual 30 minute session to discuss the session, fee, format, and boundaries before booking a full sacred intimacy or embodiment session.
A few things you may be wondering
Do I need experience with Tantra or meditation?
No prior experience is needed to begin a conversation. We can discuss what interests you and which practices, if any, feel appropriate.
What happens in a session?
A session is shaped through conversation and mutual agreement. We clarify the approach and boundaries before beginning, and you can ask questions, pause, or decline a suggested practice.
What can I expect from the work?
These sessions offer a setting for personal self-discovery. They may inform, invite, or catalyze exploration; no particular experience or result is guaranteed.
